Too often I hear about people being misinformed and ignorant when it comes to sexual health and education. To see grown men and women be confused about sex is something very wrong in our society and a huge safety liability. Sexual education is not validated in the U.S and is imperative for a happy and enjoyable sex life.
In the sex positive community, I became interested in a group that wants to create a sexual safe space that is what is so needed today. From so many different perspectives, that can teach every walk of life something about sex education and sexuality.
I interviewed Shakun, the creator of Tickle.Life, to learn more about her perspective and why she wanted to create a realm of education for something that is still taboo in our country, and ironically Tickle.Life is from Toronto.
Please tell me a little about yourself (age, where you're from/live, occupation). I will also add your bio from your website. I am 33 year old Indian origin woman who has had the privilege of travelling across the world. I have been an initiator of multiple social impact projects for creating exposure and opportunities to the relevant stakeholders and citizens. My experience in India and the Netherlands led her to realise the importance of an ecosystem to celebrate sexuality and to eradicate the taboo attached That is how Tickle.Life was born. A senior communications professional that also founded Dizuna Communications and has an experience spanning more than ten years in Strategic media relations. I am also the recipient of Netherlands Fellowship Awards.
What is Tickle.Life? Why inspired you to make it? Tickle.Life is an initiative to encourage acceptance and expression of our sexuality. It is a platform to celebrate unrestrained fantasies and sexual innuendos via discussions. The community exclusively targets like-minded people who are judgement free, where there is no right or wrong way of expressing one’s thoughts. So helping us to remain true to our real self and accepting the world around in a better way. The platform encourages community building by maintaining anonymity and privacy but discourages hookup by providing no way to connect personally on one to one level.
I believe, sex is an integral part of human life, in fact there is no doubt that it is as important as food and water though unfortunately we try to curtail or add taboo with this integral need. If you look around there are so many issues and negativity which can directly or indirectly be related to sex, that is where the idea was born. A self actualisation environment where any discussions related to sex are welcome.
What is your journey with sex positivity/education?Why is sex positivity important to you? I am more of an observer than an educator. I can only work in areas where I know deep impact can be felt and Tickle.Life through its sexual liberation is planning on bringing that exact change. It is important to know what is right and wrong but also very very important to accept that one has to try to learn and things cannot be taught but learnt.
Like I said before, our life and its needs are intertwined and keeping ourselves oblivious or putting a banner on sex is only injurious and unfair to ourselves.
Why do you think a safe place for sex and “a self help group” is needed today? Ultimately we are social and we need a place where we can express ourselves without the danger of being misjudged and being subjected to preconceived notions. That is one of the major reason why a self help group or community is needed. Since a lot of personal information is expected to be shared, it is imperative that the environment that is created is safe from all the different facets like information leak, bullying, trolling, etc.
How would you define sex positivity and how does Tickle.Life portray it? Sex positivity stands for acceptance and Tickle.Life advocate that acceptance.
How does Tickle.Life provide a community for sex positivity? Tickle.Life as an iOS application has various groups where people can talk about everything and anything without the fear of being known to the world. For people who love to read about different things, we have specially curated real life blog posts by people from all walks of life. Also, I think this is an interesting platform to announce that we are curating a book as we speak of real life stories of real people who have come to accept their sexuality in a positive way.
Why is Tickle.life different from other sex resources? Tickle.life is made for everyone, people who want to talk, who want to have their own community but can not find a platform to promote sex positivity, we are here to provide them with the platform, people who love to read, can read our blogs and can even write. Tickle.Life is basically a movement, an ecosystem to understand and propagate sexuality.
What has been your favorite response to the site? The favourite response we have received for the iOS mobile application and the website has been people coming on their own and even before we explaining them they understand and want to be a part of this movement. Till date, we have multiple advisors and collaborators who are experts in their own right in the field of sexual liberations and are helping us spread the message.
You have many different people on your team of writers. How does the diversity contribute to your content? The main essence of Tickle.Life lies in its diversity We are just not creating a mobile application community but an ecosystem where people are open and understandable of each others needs and cultures. To create an entity which is so ambitious, it requires diverse thought process and knowledge regarding human intricacies with a global outlook. Tickle.Life is thankful to have managed to gain that essence via our team members, helping us not only to celebrate sexuality but also to give us factual information.
How would you define feminism? Would you refer to yourself as a feminist? Is there anything you would change/like to discuss on feminism on the topic of sex positivity/education? I believe feminism is inequality in itself . My school of thought is we all are equal and we all deserve equality whether we are a woman or a man or are gender fluid. Though I am open to talk more about how with time woman as a gender has been subjugated to various atrocities and issues.
To learn more about Shakun and Tickle.Life, check out their website and follow them on Instagram.